tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post8951621701118396788..comments2023-10-17T07:37:00.391-05:00Comments on Written Words: Writing about sexScott Buryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05061034006121401082noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post-49824456567329561972012-08-18T20:42:35.115-05:002012-08-18T20:42:35.115-05:00I can't believe we're still uptight talkin...I can't believe we're still uptight talking about sex.<br />I had my kids in the '80 and never had 'the talk' with them because I thought they were getting sex ed at school. We did eventually communicate with the kids about sex, but looking back, if I had to do it over again, I'd try to cover the subject thoroughly.<br />I don't know if the kids picked up on my discomfort with the subject, or if it was the way kids behaved at the time, but I remember they didn't want to talk about sex and would make a big fuss if I brought up the subject.<br />I was raised in ages so dark I'm not comfortable writing sex scenes. There's an awkward one coming up in the story I'm working on, and I've decided to damn the torpedoes and just write it.<br />But I thought the rest of the world had gotten over this.<br />If I had children today and the exhibition was on, I don't know if I Would take them if they were underage, but I know that I Should take them. I think I would be more embarassed than anything else. Especially if the kids were teens. If they were young, I think it would be easier.<br />It seems like some Canadians are still inhibited about sex. I thought younger people were a little more open about it than in days past.<br />With STDs, AIDs, teenage pregnancies and homosexuality causing people problems through ignorance and misconceptions, it's time we loosened up.<br />I agree with Spencer that sex should be discussed casually.<br />Reading this article and seeing the comments has made me realize that it's important to write and include sex scenes integral to the story.<br />Louise Sorensen<br />louise3anne twitterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post-17251532892891667092012-07-09T14:16:54.244-05:002012-07-09T14:16:54.244-05:00Thanks for your frank comment, Spencer. And I am q...Thanks for your frank comment, Spencer. And I am quite impressed with the honesty on your blog.<br /><br />The terror we feel in talking or writing about sex is exactly the problem. And there are so many people who put themselves out as experts in morality and public propriety who try to scare us more about sex. And it becomes a public health problem - as you say, when questions are left unanswered because people are too afraid of public censure and rebuke to ask them, then they have to go on without the knowledge - which could be something that not even the most self-righteous could advocate censoring, like preventing STDs.<br /><br />Thank you, Spencer!Scott Buryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05061034006121401082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post-42093860808782498742012-07-08T20:45:32.725-05:002012-07-08T20:45:32.725-05:00I'm 14, so maybe I can give the teen perspecti...I'm 14, so maybe I can give the teen perspective. <br /><br />I was terrified of sex, specifically STD's. I had so many questions, but I was too afraid to find answers. And it got even more complicated when I connected sex with being gay. <br /><br />I just think sex should become a topic that is discussed casually. It should'nt be "scary sex-ed week" because when sex becomes scary and embarrassing to talk about, questions are left unanswered.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post-2793884142398938972012-06-05T17:17:44.509-05:002012-06-05T17:17:44.509-05:00My ten year old asked about sex and I felt too unc...My ten year old asked about sex and I felt too uncomfortable to answer. He told me that if I didn't he would ask someone else. Maybe this might help open communication lines. <br /><br />P.S. I like sex in novels. Women fantasy.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05078687302885742526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post-6713231185709756042012-05-31T10:40:47.557-05:002012-05-31T10:40:47.557-05:00Do you think you would come to the Museum of Scien...Do you think you would come to the Museum of Science and Technology to see this exhibit? Would you bring your children to it if the exhibit came to a town close to you?Scott Buryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05061034006121401082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post-84526604614376969262012-05-31T09:29:38.587-05:002012-05-31T09:29:38.587-05:00My parents gave me the "Where Did I Come From...My parents gave me the "Where Did I Come From?" book and I studied it thoroughly. My own kids are only 6 and 8, but when they ask questions I tell them the absolute scientific truth. As the old song said, blind them with science.Hayley Linfieldhttp://web.me.com/hlinfield/H.Linfieldnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post-91868707047367441032012-05-26T21:38:13.585-05:002012-05-26T21:38:13.585-05:00I think this exhibit is a fabulous idea. My mom sa...I think this exhibit is a fabulous idea. My mom sat me down at 11 to educate me. She also made it so comfortable to talk about anything with her that the 1st time I had sex, I went home after and told her how much it sucked in detail. *grin* I really believe that our early education and easy to talk with parents are the reason none of my 4 siblings and I ended up with a teen pregnancy. I hope my son will feel like he can talk to us about anything. I know he'll have a good sex ed BEFORE he decides to try to find out on his own.Sabrina A. Fishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14854713472424756485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23776112.post-21134426919849698172012-05-26T12:10:52.828-05:002012-05-26T12:10:52.828-05:00I once listened to an interview (circa 1980-someth...I once listened to an interview (circa 1980-something) with a high school exchange student from Greece. He found American girls too aggressive. Truth is, had he been a girl, he/she might have said the same thing about the boys. We attempt to "protect" them from sex when their hormones are raging. (I remember!) He related that his uncles had sat him down at a young age and explained the "facts" of life - not only what's what, but also the proper technique of "romancing" a woman. The bottom line is that is seemed better adjusted as regards sex than any American teenager I ever knew among adolescents of the 1950s or in any other time.Jack Durishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06577583997517810469noreply@blogger.com